In an instant things can change drastically. On Thursday, my teen son came home upset about what happened to him at school. He has been struggling all week. But, this last NEGATIVE comment and actions by a teacher at his junior high school was his breaking point. My teenage son was in so much pain. He called me from the school office extremely upset, begging me to let him go home because he didn't want to lose it at school and get into trouble. He said, "Mom, P-L-E-A-S-E let me go home. I can't take much more of this."
It broke my heart to hear my son's pain. It upset me more when he informed me that a teacher told another student, "Stay away from him because he is a bad kid." Another teacher, as he entered his class, she placed his papers on his desk without giving him any guidance or instruction as to what the discussion / class work problem was being worked on as a class.
All weekend, I sat with my teenage son talking and giving POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS and advice regarding his school, friends, building up his self-esteem and confidence. He was looking forward to returning to school on Monday. In an instant it all changed on Sunday evening within 3 minutes.
How you ask? Another teenager, a girl his age & a relative, began chatting with him online. She called him an "ass, asshole, stupid" and that he "would get what's coming to him". He told her to stop. She continued with "I'm just trying to help you."
Really?!?!? How does this help my son? It doesn't. He was so angry he wanted to go confront her. That was not going to accomplish anything. I'm just relieved that he took my advice. Sat down with me and we had another heart-felt talk. Decisions, Actions, and making the right choices in life. To learn how to compose himself. To think before acting. To think before talking.
He asked, "Why am I alive? Why didn't God let me die when I was a baby? I feel as if I should have never been born."
Wow!!! When I heard him ask these questions, I was speechless. My baby was truly lost in the world. My heart aches for him. I told him that God has a plan for him. He was placed here to accomplish something in life that is great. He has a mission to accomplish for himself....a gift to give to others. He has to open his heart, mind, soul, and eyes to see and understand. He has to open his ears to listen to God's message. I truly believe that God puts challenges in our paths every day...to see how exactly are we going to handle things. Are we going to choose the right path? In times of difficulties, are we going to turn to our Lord for guidance?
NEGATIVE comments are made to our children every day, from all around....parents, siblings, adults, law enforcement, teachers, community. I know that children are different in today's world than when I was growing up. There is little respect and kindness. Let's remember: It all starts at home.
My child's heart is broken. An absentee Father who has NEVER been there for him from day one until now. His best friend moved away from him over a year ago...NEVER stayed in connect (no calls, no emails, no visits). An adult relative lost his temper and physically pushed him out of his grandparents home and used derogatory words with my son.
When is enough.....enough. How much can a teen take? I don't want to lose my son to bullies or suicide. I'm here fighting to keep my son alive in today's world. I'm working hard to build up his self-esteem and confidence by using POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS on a daily basis. Won't you help do the same?
Let's start with: Love yourself.
Next: I love you unconditionally.
And so on...and so forth.
